The news of a young woman gone missing while walking home has brought up many fears I grew up with in India. We all have stories of being groped, attacked & some much worse. And it is always the women’s fault.
We were too loud, wearing unsuitable clothes, putting ourselves in danger. Always watching our backs, anxious, hyperaware. I am tired of it all. I don’t want any girl to grow up with this fear, to have to shrink & make themselves invisible so that they can be safe.
Where are the men talking about this? Where are the teachers & parents talking to boys about what they need to do? Why are all the pamphlets handed out at universities & schools to girls/women on how to be safe and prevent rape? Why is the onus always on us? (All rhetorical questions)
Teach boys to stop taking what is not theirs without asking first. I believe all women would agree with me that men ‘should not go out alone’ because they cannot be held responsible for their actions. What if they see a woman who was ‘asking for it’?
‘Is it my fault?‘ exhibition raised awareness of why we need to stop asking what they were wearing.