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Conquer 

Women CAN and DO dream, achieve, inspire, celebrate, EXIST, LIVE, ENJOY around the world. And they do all this without any assistance from men.

This post is for all those who think men are superior than women. The truth is simple. Apart from them being biologically different from one another, and leaving physical attributes aside, there is ABSOLUTELY NO DIFFERENCE in the way they think, act, react or what they can do. 

They’re equal. They’re independent, they’re strong, they’re very aware of their surroundings and they’re not ready to be bogged down by regressive ideologies. The world would cease to exist if any one of them would cease to exist, then how can we not treat them equally?

Women command respect JUST like men, and they WILL get that respect. NOT just on this day. 

Let’s pledge to give everyone equal respect, equal opportunities to grow and prosper, so that the world grows as one unit and conquers as one unit.

And irrespective of these hindrances & many more. Some of us still conquer. Imagine what we could do if we had equal rights in society..!!

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Anti-rape Pants

https://youtu.be/fWZYsHJbrBY

Saw this video and its a sad world that this kind of thing even needs to exist 😦

While I very much appreciate the thought and effort that has been put into this product. I can’t help but feel two things. First is I instinctively cringe cause it looks like capitalization on rape. Now obviously I don’t claim to know the intentions of the people who developed this product. It’s just as an outsider with no background information that’s what it looks like. Second is that this is another “thing” that puts the responsibility on the victim. 

Why are we teaching people to wear this instead of stopping people being predators in the first place? This is pretty much saying it’s the victims fault and they should be the ones being careful rather than it being the sexual predators fault for violating someone else. On top of that, not all sexual offences are below the belt of the victim.

When would you wear these? ‘Ooh today, I think I better wear my anti-rape pants. Feeling like I might get raped today!’ I’m all for protecting people, but the idea of having to prepare for potential rape seems terrifying to me.

Then what happens when someone is raped, and everyone’s response is, “well they should have been wearing a rape nappy!”

This culture of blaming the victims needs to stop. It’s not a victims responsibility to prepare in case they are raped/mugged/assaulted etc. It’s the responsibility of society to educate the population that these acts are wrong and will not be tolerated!

People keep saying, why teach self defense, instead of teaching people not to do a crime in the first place.

Surely it’d be smarter to educate young people that this kind of behaviour is unacceptable? However, if “teaching people it’s wrong” worked, then we wouldn’t have any murderers or thieves either. People who rape know they’re doing something they shouldn’t do!

There isn’t a rape culture, because nothing in our culture condones or promotes rape. Saying that rape culture exists is like saying murder culture exists, or that there’s a fraud culture. There can be things done to lessen rape, but it will never be completely gone, neither will murder. Teaching people ‘not to rape’ will never work because it’s not a matter of education or knowledge as to how rape is wrong (on a potential rapists part), it’s a matter of skewed moral backing and apathy for the victims feelings.

A lot of rapists already know it’s wrong but they do it anyway. 

When you ask rapists a lot of them are in denial about what they did was rape. Like literally they’ll justify it as “she didn’t say no! (She was unconscious)”.

As great as these seem what seems to have been forgotten is that sexual predators don’t attack for the sex. They attack for the power and control it gives them. If they can’t get it one way they’ll get it another which could be just as damaging if not life threatening 😢. That’s why self defense needs to be taught.

What I don’t agree with however (and I’m not accusing you of doing this) is the societal response that a victim could have some how encouraged the rape. 

When it comes to taking a stand on crimes against women, we are reminded each time that women always have a past, while men have a future waiting, anxiously to roll out the red carpet for them, under which can be brushed all the wrongs they commit.
It would just be nice to see more in “media” about how we’re dealing with those responsible for committing rape and less about how victims could or could have prevent(ed) it.

Tell me again, how men are under attack because of feminism. And I’ll tell you women need rape whistles, pepper spray, and now this.

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Is marriage an achievement?

A friend forwarded this image to me on Whatsapp. Not sure I agree entirely. A wedding is not an achievement. A good, balanced marriage certainly is, calling for years of work on the part of both parties.

Thankfully marriage was never ever a topic in our household. Education and career was. I was never told not to do this, not to say this, etc because I had to get married one day. During studies when other girls used to fantasize about marriage I on the other hand thought about polishing my skill, volunteering and even started working. And when I was earning, girls my age were getting married and I on the other hand was learning new skills and thinking about how to get a house on my name! My family never ever got worried about our marriage and when the right time came I married on my terms and by my choice and still living how I wanted to. 

Individual religious beliefs also have a high impact on this uneven happiness or otherwise in the marriage. 

Making a marriage, or any relationship, work takes effort. Being happy in a marriage, or other relationship, is an achievement that should be celebrated. 

Getting married in and of itself is not an achievement. Getting married is not a goal. It is just a thing that can happen or not in the middle of all your achievements. And when it happens make sure you get married on your own terms. 🙂

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