The Crossroads of Should and Must…

Brought up in India, I am conditioned to be always ready for the challenge…where being an Engineer, Doctor or a Lawyer is considered a safe bet still. Off late, new generation is breaking the trend and young entrepreneurs are blooming in every house. But, society is still judgemental.’I told you so…’ is still heard if you are unsuccessful in an endeavour.

Thomas Carlyle said “It’s the first of all problems for a man to find out what kind of work he is to do in this Universe”… Well, I am yet to put a finger on it but I have taken a step of quitting my job last week, and without another job (trust me, everyone except my mother, is amusingly shocked). This is not a hasty decision but in past few months, I definitely know that this is surely not what I want to do. Tough decision for me but I definitely know that I had to give the door to my destiny a bit of a nudge. I will take a moment to wander and open myself for possibilities but will find a way to achieve my calling…could be further studies, different job profile, or something which I haven’t yet thought of.

It had been long since I had been on this cross-road. And as I happen to read this fantastic article by Elle Luna.


It’s a pep talk for anyone who’s chosen Should far too long–months, years, maybe a lifetime, and feels like it’s about time they give Must a shot.

There are two paths in life: Should and Must. We arrive at this crossroads over and over again. And each time, we get to choose.

Over the past year I’ve chosen Must again and again. And it was petrifying. And at times it was dark. But I would never, ever, trade this past year for anything. This essay is my three biggest takeaways from the experience. It’s for anyone who is thinking of making the jump from Should to Must. Anyone looking to follow the energy deep within their chest but aren’t quite sure how.

Should is how others want us to show up in the world — how we’re supposed to think, what we ought to say, what we should or shouldn’t do. It’s the vast array of expectations that others layer upon us. When we choose Should the journey is smooth, the risk is small.

Must is different—there aren’t options and we don’t have a choice.

Must is who we are, what we believe, and what we do when we are alone with our truest, most authentic self. It’s our instincts, our cravings and longings, the things and places and ideas we burn for, the intuition that swells up from somewhere deep inside of us. Must is what happens when we stop conforming to other people’s ideals and start connecting to our own. Because when we choose Must, we are no longer looking for inspiration out there. Instead, we are listening to our calling from within, from some luminous, mysterious place.


Read the complete article.

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