What does it take to make us happy? Is it more money, spare time, good spouse, a better job? Through my many years, I have suffered with “I’ll be happy when …” syndrome. It is a very common expression that we have all said. “I will be happy when I don’t have to get up at 7:30 am to go to work”, “I will be happy when I get my new car” and it goes on and on about a state of mind that remains in the future rather than in the present. It is a common trend regarding happiness.
Happiness shouldn’t be something dangling out there in the world of tomorrow or someday. It isn’t a feeling to experience once something else happens. We forget that it is something to be experienced now, in this moment. While our anticipation or focus on the future is perfectly fine, connecting happiness to future events causes us to miss out being in the moment…for joy and fulfillment.
Happiness is more powerful when experienced as an immediate emotion than seen as a carrot to be sought after. Interestingly, many of us might agree that we place future conditions on happiness, and even when those conditions are met, we don’t feel the pleasure we had expected to. The key is to learn how to let go of the unknown future and the unchangeable past and allow the goodness of the moment to fill you with inner peace. The present moment is all that we have, and when we find meaning and satisfaction in the present, our future will take care of itself.
As Agnes Repplier aptly said that “”It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.”, thus my goal this year would be to try to be fully present in every moment – to really be connected to whatever it is I am doing, even if it’s waiting in line… 🙂
Happiness means feeling happy and finding pleasure about what we have right this minute. In any given moment, if we try hard enough, we can find good and positive things to be happy about. Maybe it is simply that the sun is out and shining warmly on our skin or we are enjoying a nice cup of hot tea with a good friend or talking face-timing with my brother who is miles away. Or maybe after a tough day at work, we know we have done our very best. These are things to think about as we enter a New Year. Let’s acknowledge and appreciate the many blessings in our life that give each moment a reason for joy and happiness.
Warning: Happiness can be contagious, so you just might end up having a positive effect on those around you as well!! (: