No, I don’t look back too much, but its true how much I get distracted in my present by thinking about it.
Sometimes as much as one wants to walk away from it, sometimes you can’t. You are not capable of leaving nor is your partner capable of leaving you. Even if seperation happens, the problem with few of the sorts sometimes is that they have such a need to fill a void with an instant replacement, that they keep layering relationship after relationship without wiping off the old ones.
How can you possibly be the person you are going to be in the future if you are still wearing a layer of your past? What if you are going to meet someone on the rebound?? For many it does but for me thats simply layering your past. I dont know if those successfully end up together. I would surely ask “On the rebound from who? Him! or The one before him! or The one before him was actually a pretty good match.” 😉
Oh well…wipe them off! You can’t re-date the dated. You may as well take a shower and start fresh in the morning! “Oh yes, the past can hurt. But, you can either run from it or, learn from it.” ~ Rafiki, from The Lion King
Our past experiences have varying degrees of affects. For example, I could be completely screwed up due to the fact that my family is so amazing and provides such a fairy-tale, happy view of the world that I’m actually shocked every single time someone demonstrates to me that all people aren’t good. As a matter of fact, I still think that there is good in everyone. I just don’t seem to meet guys who have the kind of ambition or work ethic that i’m attracted to.
Sometimes, things happen in life that you just can’t change. It’s a hard pill to swallow. It’s easy to bury your head in your pillow and scream for two hours, but it doesn’t accomplish a whole lot. Things happen that we have no control over, and that’s part of life. You can sit around feeling sorry for yourself, or you can get out of bed in the morning knowing that there are people out there who are in worse situations than yours.
“And then I felt sad because I realized that once people are broken in certain ways, they can’t ever be fixed, and this is something nobody ever tells you when you are young and it never fails to surprise you as you grow older as you see the people in your life break one by one. You wonder when your turn is going to be, or if it’s already happened.” ~ Douglas Coupland, Life After God.